This is how it is in semi rural Olympia, WA. I'm about 20 minutes from the state capitol, but the only options are 1.5mbps ADSL, or starlink. 4g/5g arrived last year, which is a great backup when starlink is down (frequent).
I should check on them again, at the time (nearly 3 years ago) when I was looking they didn't offer it in my area. But then I noticed AT&T and Verizon were showing full signal strength of LTE in the last few months. At this point my phone is better than starlink in terms of latency, throughput, reliability, and I wouldn't have to pay $120/m to a troll.
Its kind of wild that you are having issues with Starlink. Is it local geography or trees that are an issue?
I'm a little farther north on Vancouver Island and I see basically perfect connectivity with my latest generation dish. If I go look at the stats in the app it shows small losses of connectivity, but I've never noticed on a video call or anything.
I've noticed it is very dependent on the day. Actually during the day it's pretty good, but around 7pm it gets pretty slow. My guess is that's when everyone in the neighborhood is streaming netflix. It's not the worst for me since I generally log off at night, but if I watched TV I think it'd be annoying.
I'd have to agree with the other comment on being oversold. I haven't heard the speeds being worse than your normal 4g hotspot in the woods though.
I did a short stint of RV life on verzion throughout Western Washington and received sub 800Kbps on my 4G hotspot most of the time. This was out towards Concrete, WA however, not the state capitol, Olympia.
