One additional observation. I shared this with article with my Chinese girlfriend. This is what she texted me in response:

I love the article. This is why we fight. I am your Chinese parent and call you "stupid" when I want to show you that I believe you can do better. When you tell me to "do whatever makes me happy," I feel you are being irresponsible because I can't control myself!

I guess we fail at being each other's parents. :)