The stock market isn't a zero sum game (or a negative sum game for that matter). If you think it is, you are over simplifying. At the very least you need to account for traders' differing time spans on their trades.
Say a day trader buys a stock for $9/share and then sells it to me at $10/share a week later. I then put the stock into my investment portfolio and hold on to it for forty years and sell it at $100/share. You could make a simplistic argument that the day trader "lost" the game because he missed out on the appreciation to $100/share but you are neglecting the different investing timespans. The day trader doesn't have a job if he is holding on to stocks for 40 years. He was happy to buy and sell quickly for a small profit. I'm happy because I held on to an appreciating asset. Bankers are happy because they made a few dollars in commissions. No one losses here.
But you two are not the whole market. Someone sold a stock to a day trader and someone bought it from you. There are no other money in a stock market except those people bring (minus commission) so how everybody can win?